People always matter. Humans are naturally social creatures, and the only way we make sense of our lives and feel as if they have meaning is if there are other people helping us to define ourselves. I'm lucky to have so many amazing people in my life, and I admire each person I know for different reasons. In an earlier post, I talked a bit about how I am constantly learning to suspend judgement. Or maybe I didn't. At any rate, I know I wrote it somewhere the last few months. Because of the way we Americans are shaped through our culture and society that constantly surround us, I'd think it's safe to say that most of us are pretty judgmental creatures when it comes to others. I know that when I meet someone new, I form an opinion of them instantly--and a lot of the time, I am completely wrong. I think most of us are. In my twenties, I have come to clearly understand that the more time one spends getting to know a person, the harder it is to dislike them. At least, that's the way life goes for me.
So with that introduction, I bring to you my friend Carie. I've been friends with her since kindergarten and graduated with her from high school along with a group of friends--who are still friends today! That's a pretty impressive thing I think.
Anyway. Carie and I were fast friends on the first day of kindergarten. She always wore really cute little fancy dresses to my birthday parties, never hung up on a late night phone call, and never let me fail a math test. She also never told me or made me feel like I was stupid, and I felt really stupid a lot of the time during our math tutoring sessions because so much of it just didn't click for me, but it always worked easily for her. I must have been very frustrating to work with, but she always stuck with me--hour after hour--over the phone after school. I love her for that. Growing up together was pretty darn cool, and we've been through all kinds of life events in our 21 years as friends. And though I have a lot of things I love about Carie, there is one thing that ALWAYS stands out above everything for me about her: Carie is the least judgmental person I know. She is someone who has respect for pretty much anyone she runs into--and even as a little girl in elementary school, she was always nice to everyone. I definitely have a note somewhere stashed away in a box that another friend of ours and I wrote to her saying that if she didn't play with us on the playground instead of some other girls, we wouldn't be her friends anymore. And what did Carie do? I believe she told us it wasn't right for us to say that, and then we worked out a SCHEDULE (for pete's sake, we were in all of second grade at this point bahaha) of the days she would spend recess with us versus other people. Carie stuck up for the kids we made fun of and refused to join in mean conversations. That is pretty darn awesome, now that I look back at it. Because it's not every day a little kid stands up to the pressure of all her friends to do what she knows is right. And Carie never changed in that respect. She doesn't talk badly about other people, and she really seems to embrace everyone she meets. I've always admired Carie's genuine love for others, and I know she'll instill that into her soon-to-be-born baby.
And so, to end this, Carie will certainly matter when I die. I <3 you. :)